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Don't be Selfish: Stop Helping, Start Asking Apr 15, 2026

Hello Hello!

I want to start today with a single idea. And I'm going to ask you to just sit with it for a moment before we unpack it.

We don't build trust by offering help. We build trust by asking for it.

Read that aga...

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True Softness: Balancing Clarity, Lightness, and Kindness be clear lightness softness Apr 02, 2026

 

Today I want to start with a statement that I believe all the way to my bones.

There can be no softness without clarity.

I want you to sit with that for a second. Because on the surface, it might feel a little backwards. Clarity soun...

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Balancing the Exciting Breakthrough with the Boring Truth Mar 22, 2026

 

Hello Hello. Welcome to The Balance Point, where I ponder life, horses, leadership, dogs and anything else that captures my attention. I’m Tessa, and I am glad you are here.

Today I want to talk about somethin...

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Herd Wisdom: Balancing Compassion, Community, and Growth community comparison trap herd reward often survival of the fittest Mar 08, 2026

 

 

Welcome to The Balance Point where I pontificate about horses, life, and whatever else comes up… I’m Tessa and I am so glad you are here.

If you have been following along with this series, you know we have been building something together. We star...

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Beyond Methods: Building Confidence, Trust, and Respect basics confidence foundations respect trust Feb 15, 2026

Hello, and welcome to the Balance Point where I ponder life, horses, french classical dressage, working equitation, 2 dogs and whatever else crosses my mind... I'm Tessa … and if you've been following along on...

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Balance Productive Struggle and Learning intention making mistakes mindset productive struggles Feb 01, 2026

 

 Hello Hello!   I want to talk about something that I think we all wrestle with, whether we realize it or not - this delicate balance between challenging ourselves and our horses versus protecting ourselves and our horses. Between stepping ...

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Balancing Ambition with Patience and Reward ambition goals reward often try Jan 11, 2026

 

 

Today - I’m going to start with a quote: 

"What value can there be in a new exercise for the horse if the demand is excessive? What end is gained in having obtained the execution of a movement if it is wrongly done, and i...

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Beyond the win: Setting Goals that Sustain you ambition goals intentional path mindset vision Jan 01, 2026

 

 

Happy New Year! 

It's that time of year again.

January. New year, new you. Everyone's setting goals, making resolutions, declaring THIS is the year everything changes.

And by February? Most of those goals are abandoned. Or worse ...

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